You found the dress, reserved the venue, drew up the guest list, picked the rings, ordered the flowers, tasted the cake, reserved the caterer, hired the photographer, finalized the menu, delivered the song list, met with the minister, picked up the brides maid’s dresses, reserved the men’s wedding attire, wrote your vows, drafted the speeches, chose accessories, made the favors, designed the seating chart, made the escort cards, had the programs printed, bought the wedding party gifts, made the appointments for the hairdresser and make-up artist, got the marriage license, sent the invitations, planned the rehearsal dinner, called the guests who have not replied, confirmed the numbers to the caterer, wrote the final checks to the vendors, and at long last…completed the other five hundred and eighty two items on your to-do list! And finally…the big day has arrived!
Here at Simple Lavish, we have all had careers in the wedding industry in many different job capacities; photographer, coordinator, minister, planner, caterer, and florist. But no matter what our job, the one thing we have in common is that we have all observed a wide range of wedding day emotions from exceptionally happy to downright sad and without a doubt, the best and happiest weddings are the weddings where the bride and groom wear a smile from the beginning of the day to the end.
If you have ever planned a wedding you know they are a lot of work. Let’s face it…as fun and as exciting as it is to plan your big day, it can be over the top stressful…if you let it be.
When the big day arrives, try to relax and have fun. If you are planning a big wedding and reception or even a not so big one, wedding consultants can be your best friend. And if you haven’t hired a wedding planner, think about hiring one for the day. They can take the pressure off by seeing that the vendors are on time and the day runs smooth. One person should be in charge and it shouldn’t be the bride or groom.
And just in case there is a hitch…a sense of humor helps. You may spend months putting your heart and soul into planning the perfect wedding and of course it can be disappointing if some of the all-important details go awry. But try to keep in mind what this day is all about. You are marrying the person that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. In the big scheme of things, it doesn’t matter if the roses are the wrong color of pink, the best man didn’t shave, or that your cake ended up with two layers of chocolate and one of white, instead of the other way around. Take a step back, take a deep breath and put things in perspective. No one is going to know what color the roses were supposed to be, the ladies may think the best man looks sexy with that five o’clock shadow, and in reality, most of the guests don’t even eat cake. Please don’t sweat the little things because ultimately the love that you have for each other is all that matters at the end of the day.
No one is expecting perfection, so try to take the imperfections in stride…keep your cool…and when the ring bearer drops the rings in the lawn and it takes 45 minutes and 150 guests to locate them…laugh. Wedding disasters make for a good story…eventually.